Chapter 10 - I Had Seen the Danger in Vivian’s Thinking and Still Left Her the Key
My therapist later asked:
“When did you first feel unsafe around Vivian?”
I wanted to say:
the slap.
Then I remembered:
Grace’s name.
Vivian looking at my pregnant belly when I called the unborn baby part of:
the Walker family.
Clue one.
Then:
Daniel’s watch.
She entered my bedroom and removed it because she believed I had less right to it than:
she did.
I demanded it back.
Then left her with:
the house key.
Clue two.
Then the life-insurance conversation.
She asked for:
$118,000
as though Daniel’s death benefit was simply a continuation of his monthly support to:
her.
When I hesitated, she said:
“He was mine before he was yours.”
I remember the exact words.
I told Amanda afterward.
Amanda said:
“Change the locks.”
I answered:
“She just buried her only child.”
Clue three.
My estate attorney, Laura Kim, said something similar.
“Rachel, grief doesn’t require unrestricted access to your home or financial records.”
I said:
“Vivian needs something to do.”
Laura answered:
“Then give her a defined task.”
I did not.
Clue four.
Then Vivian started sorting:
mail.
I came downstairs at Amanda’s house one afternoon to find her opening a bank statement she had brought from:
my mailbox.
“What are you doing?”
“Helping.”
“Don’t open my mail.”
She became offended.
I apologized.
I apologized.
For telling someone not to open:
my mail.
Why?
I was exhausted.
Eight months pregnant.
Then postpartum.
Daniel had died.
My mother-in-law cried whenever I established a boundary.
I began treating boundaries as:
cruelty.
There was another truth I liked less.
I did not want to manage:
Daniel’s death.
Vivian did.
She called:
funeral homes,
insurers,
his employer,
friends.
Some of that help was enormously useful.
So I allowed her to become:
administrator of grief.
Then resented when she acted like the role came with:
authority.
I had alternatives.
Attorney.
My sister.
A professional estate organizer.
Simply:
time.
But letting Vivian handle things allowed me to stay:
in bed,
pregnant,
staring at Daniel’s side of the room.
I needed help.
I accepted help without defining:
limits.
That did not cause:
arson.
Nothing I did made Vivian responsible for anything except:
her own choices.
But I had ignored increasingly clear evidence that she did not distinguish between:
helping me manage Daniel’s affairs
and:
claiming Daniel’s life after death.
That was mine.
The most painful part?
The day before the fire, I had finally scheduled:
a locksmith.
Saturday morning.
After Grace and I returned.
May you like
Two days too late.
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